During the daytime, it’s not at all unusual to see a good-looking woman out by herself. At night in the bars, not so much.
So, how do you approach groups?
Nothing special is required. You can tailor most of the approaches we discussed earlier to a group setting.
Just keep the opener, light, easy, and focused on what’s happening there, in that moment.
And as always, it’s not what you say, it’s how you say it – with confidence, fun, indifference, playfulness, curiosity, and so on.
One tip though – direct your opening comment to the group at large, not just the woman you like. You need her friends to like you and not feel that you’re treating them as though they’re invisible.
That said, a few examples of easy, "in the moment" group openers…
You (to a group of normal girls): “Happy Friday. You guys out celebrating something or is this just girls-night-out?”
You (to a group of elegantly dressed girls): “Wow, love the outfits. You guys look like a bunch of Bond girls. Who are the good ones, and who are the evil ones?”
You (to a group of normal girls having lots of fun): “Well, this looks like a bunch of fun trouble. Should we just head to Vegas right now?”
Don’t overthink what you say. The women will respond far more to your energy than your words.
How to Switch Speaking from "the Group" to the Woman You Like
When you approach the group, position yourself next to the woman you’re most interested in.
Then, for the first few moments, focus your attention on everyone else in the group. Be nice, charming. Speak to everyone – especially the lesser attractive friends.
Eventually, you’ll include the woman you like in your attention.
At some point, the broad “group conversation” will break down into two or three different smaller conversations. It’s then that you focus exclusively on the woman you like.
What you do is take a step away from the group, so that the woman you like pivots her body so that her back is to her friends as she talks to you.
This is important for two reasons:
One, after you’ve shown her friends that you’re a good guy, you don’t want them listening in on your efforts to charm her. You need a little privacy. But if you pull this girl away from her friends too early, they might stop you.
This leads us to the second reason to do this…
The “pivot” enables you to have some privacy while she’s still in the presence of her friends. She’s still “with them,” so they won’t feel the need to play mama bear and come save her from you.
So, you get privacy, but also freedom from her friends blocking you.
With enough time chatting with her in this format, it will be easier for you to eventually pull her away to some other part of the bar that’s more private.
Her friends shouldn’t object at that point because they have a better sense of you, and they’ve watched their friend (the one you like) enjoy her conversation with you. So, in short, the friends are comfortable with you chatting up their friend.
NOTE: At this point in the full course, there’s an assignment that helps you improve approaching groups of women. To upgrade to the full version, click here.
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