You prefer your own company and you are often thought of as a loner or a homebody. It’s not that you are lonely, you just prefer our own company. You enjoy the comfort of our own space. Your space is familiar, welcoming, comforting.
You have no problem spending night after night at home alone. You have no problem taking yourself out to dinner and a movie. Saturday morning breakfast a-la-solo – good for me too!
Communication is key
You are a decent communicator and you have a lot to communicate, but it takes time to get you to open up and really let people in so that you feel you can reveal your true feelings. You often worry that you will be judged based on your other-worldly views, so you keep a lot of your extensive thoughts and knowledge to yourself.
You are honest and open when it comes to relationships. You have no interest in games and your partner can trust that you will have their best interest at heart at all times. Even when someone is being an asshole, you will still do what you can to ensure they are cared for and ok. In all honesty, I hate this part about myself. The worst part of being empathetic is that you feel sorry for assholes too.The worst part about being empathetic is that you feel sorry for assholes too.Click To Tweet
You are a lover, healer, and a natural care giver.You may be an old soul if you consider yourself to be a lover, a healer, and a natural caregiver.Click To Tweet
It’s in your nature to love, heal, and care for people. You will do so for all those that enter your life. Broken people will be drawn to you and you will make it your responsibility to help these people heal.
Keep in mind… THIS IS NOT YOUR JOB.
It has taken me far too long to realize this fact, please don’t let it take you that long as well. We can offer our love and support, but you cannot take on the emotional baggage of someone else in order to help them along their path. That is their path to walk and they can carry their own baggage just fine on their own.
I heard a quote the other day that really got me thinking… what if the baggage and chaos these people are carrying around is part of their Karma. You do not want to be the one responsible for inhibiting or deflecting someone’s karma.
Relationships need to be meaningful and purposeful.
You approach love and relationships with an open heart. The powerful connections you experience can be used to help you through personal, spiritual and emotional growth. You need this connection in order to find fulfillment in a relationship.
Aka. No connection. No dice. It feels gross, inauthentic, and doesn’t sit well in your gut. Ditch it.
Physical intimacy without an emotional and mental connection can be unsatisfying and empty. An old soul who comes from a traumatic past will struggle with this one. You search for love and affection, usually in the wrong places and from the wrong people. You will search for love in hopes that it will fill a void or an emptiness in your heart only to be left disappointed when it all falls away due to lack of connection and misdirection.Physical intimacy without an emotional and mental connection can be unsatisfying and empty.Click To Tweet
One-off sex, one-night-stands, and connection-less encounters can leave you feeling emotionally drained, ashamed, and empty. This doesn’t stop you from running to the next one trying to find the connection you so long for, only to be disappointed and let down. Again.
You tend to love and fall hard in the beginning of a relationship. Your hopeful heart always sees the best in people and wants so badly to receive the love you’ve been searching for. This usually leads to disappointment and again, emptiness. You fall out of love quickly or you get your heart broken easily.
If you tend to fall out of love, your feelings just stop. There is no control over this, you just wake up one day and the feelings are gone. After much deliberation and careful consideration (as this is my mechanism) I attribute this as a sign from the universe that this lesson has been run its course and it is time to move on. It’s like a nudge from the universe to keep looking. Don’t settle. (I’m not necessarily saying that the person you are with is considered settling, I am saying they may not be the one for you at all, or just not the one for you at this point in your life.)Falling out of love is like a nudge from the universe that this lesson has run its course and it's time to move on.Click To Tweet
If you’re prone to getting your heart broken, it is likely because you came on too strong in the beginning and push the other person away with your incredible energy. You loved too much and they couldn’t handle it, so they jump ship.
Romance is important, but so is being a realist.Romance is important, but so is being a realist.Click To Tweet
You understand the reality of life and situations, so romanticizing everything can morph into a turn off quickly. You can be a bit of a paradox in a sense that you love and feed off affection and attention from your partner, but you also need our space. It can be off-putting at first, but in reality, it can help create balance in the relationship.
You understand the importance of maintaining your individuality in your relationships. You need to be YOU. You need to be able to express yourself and feel free. I have found that It can be hard to find a partner that understands the importance of balance in the sense of Relationship : Space : Individual needs.
Since you are more comfortable in your own space and you prefer being at home, you often seek people that enjoy the same. The bar scene is probably not an ideal date location for an old soul. A quiet restaurant or home cooked meal and a bottle of wine would be a great setting.
PSA – A first date in a strangers home is not the best scenario in my opinion. A public place is always recommended for first dates, as well as when you are getting to know someone. Go with your gut in these situations, always trust your intuition and if anything feels off or not right, never be afraid to cancel because something doesn’t feel right, or simply opt for a public place.
To the old souls, listen to your heart. Listen to your gut. Follow the energetic flow that guides you. If you are struggling in a relationship e either with your partner or with yourself, take some time to slow down and LISTEN to your inner guidance. Guidance can come in many forms and it can look like many things. We often ignore the signs because we get wrapped up in swept away, but they are there if we are open to them.
Be patient with yourself. Take time to get to know YOU. Learn about your likes and dislikes. Discover your strengths. Start living intuitively.
To those dating an old soul… patience is key. They may not be the easiest to understand, but rest assured, if you can find a way to live on their frequency and naturally pick up on their vibes, you will find a love like no other. Do not force yourself into their world. Do not cater to their every whim or need, they enjoy a challenge and appreciate balance. They like to be cared for with strength and confidence.
Do you resonate with any of this? Do you have anything to add to what you feel makes you an old soul? Let’s hear it!