Truth is, we were lied to.
Each and every one of us.
Our parents lied to us all.
They promised us the world and left out the very important part about “working for it.”
We were told we could be anything.
What we weren’t told is that in order to BE anything, DO everything and HAVE everything, we need to work our asses off for it. Unless you were born into the monarchy or a very affluent family, chances are shit ain’t gonna be easy for you, sister. Chances are you’re going to have to hustle that ass of yours in order to cash in on all the anything’s and everything’s you were promised. It takes work. Lots of it.
Don’t get me wrong, I’m not here to burst your bubble and crush your dreams of greatness, vast wealth and incredible opportunities. I’m here to remind you that you are not entitled to any of it. If you want it, you’re going to have to go after it. Hustle. Get uncomfortable. Grow. Learn. Explore. Unless you were born with a horseshoe up your ass, chances are, opportunities are not going to fall into your lap. You’re going to have to seek them. And once those opportunities have been sought, you’re going to have to work at them to keep them around.
Be smart. It’s super sexy.
Intelligence is one of the sexiest things you can possess. Use it. Embrace it. Grow it. Hone it and don’t let anyone ever tell you that a strong, smart woman is not sexy. Because, fuck them, we are. People who try to tell you intelligence is not sexy is intimidated by it. These are not your people. Surround yourself with people that not only support your strengths, but endorse and flaunt them. Do not be afraid to release the people and negative energy that do not support your growth. You will be amazing at the space and freedom releasing negative people and energy can do. It’s sooooo liberating. Also, keep in mind, it doesn’t have to be forever. It can be a temporary, “hey, I just need some space to figure my shit out” type thing. Doesn’t mean you can never be friends again, unless they are actually super negative and a bad influence in your life. In which case, don’t let the door hit you on the way out. I’ve cut people out of my life that I knew were having a negative impact on my emotional well being. It can be a challenge, but it’s good for your health. Trust me.
I find that a large problem with people today is that they believe with all their hearts that the world owes them something. This is not true. The world doesn’t owe you anything. Nobody does… unless of course you lent something out to someone with the intention of getting it back some day, then yes of course, THEY owe you, but the rest of the world doesn’t owe you shit. This is very important to remember. We all have our stories, but it is our stories and our background that should give us strength and determination, not hold us back in life. It is not your fault your childhood was less than ideal or your Mom / Dad was AWOL, or you were abused or used or taken advantage of as a child/adolescent/adult, or that your husband cheated on you, or left you for the dog walker. It is NOT your fault any of this happened to you. It is, however, your responsibility to ensure that you use those experiences to grow from. Use that energy to fuel your fire. Use it to your advantage and make sure you do not allow it to happen again. Ever. Create awareness. Find the message in your madness. It’s there. Keep looking.
Life is not easy. It was never meant to be easy. Life is meant to challenge and change you. Life and all it’s ups and downs are here to help mold you and shape you into the person you need to be.
A great speech from Ashton Kutcher about opportunity and being sexy. Ashton is a brilliant man doing great things. If you are unfamiliar with any of the work he has down outside of TV shows and movies, I highly suggest you look him up. Purpose. Driven. Passion. Greatness. I love seeing celebrities using their status for good.
“Opportunity looks a whole lot like work.”“Be smart. Be thoughtful. Be generous.” YES!!
Build your life.